Communication in the Bedroom
Asking for What You Want
Knowing what you want isn’t as easy as it sounds. Asking for it can be even trickier. That kind of honesty makes us vulnerable and opens us up to rejection or being shamed for our desires.
People of all genders and sexualities have a lot of cultural baggage to work through. From messages implying that wanting sex or pleasure is slutty (and that that’s a bad thing) to sex tips that make it sound like we’re supposed to be able to read our partner’s minds. All of this sets us up for failure, and for those reasons and more, many people never take the chance to open a dialog with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.
In this ninety-minute video, I walk you through:
- Ways to put yourself and your partner at ease
- Styles of communication
- Specific examples of tools and phrases to try
- Ways to start tricky conversations
- Ways to incorporate communication into dirty talk
- Common fantasies to try
- And much more!
To help you succeed and integrate what you learn in class, you also receive:
- A workbook to walk you through class exercises
- A "Menu of Things to Consider," my version of a yes-no-maybe list
- An exercise to help you discover how you want to feel
- Instructions on how to take advantage of these materials
- A discount on one-on-one coaching to help you get additional support
Your Instructor
Stella Harris believes communication is key to satisfaction in relationships.
Professionally trained and certified as an intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, Stella brings empathy, expertise, and a fresh perspective to help clients find their sticking points and break through the roadblocks to their goals.
A regular speaker at colleges, universities, conferences and venues across the US and Canada, Stella’s wide-ranging expertise has led to being featured on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools, appearing as an expert witness in court, and even speaking as an authority on banana slug mating habits.
Stella’s sense of humor and ability to make difficult conversations approachable make her a frequent guest on podcasts like Sex Out Loud, Sex With Strangers, Shameless Sex, and The Pleasure Mechanics.
Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes.
Learn more at www.stellaharris.net